There's been a trend called opening nesting where parents want their grown children to reside in their home for a few years so their children can accomplish some their goals. My lease will be up soon. Should I take the plunge and move back into my parents home?
Since leaving my parent's home, I did a bit better in school. I secured a decent job. I lost weight. I was enjoying what little I had. When I was in between apartments, I did horrible in school again. I found a better job when I found another apartment. Unfortunately, I was a victim of the mortgage bubble and was laid off twice. I went back to school but retained my apartment using my credit cards, my small savings account, and private loans. I am committing financial suicide. Should I move back home?
My self esteem and self worth took a bit of a beating when I lived my parents. My father didn't support me and dismissed my ideas and knowledge. A 3.0 on a 4.0 scale was not good enough in school. He never was there when I needed him because he was always working, running errands for my grandma, or in a vegetative state in front of the television. I was unable to express myself. My high school classmates were not to visit my parents. I lacked any control whatsoever. Their home was my prison.
Things are a little bit different. I have to find things that I do have control over and find ways to stay away from the madness of their home. The money I save goes to attaining my financial freedom. I can spend more money on doing the things I enjoy such as traveling and riding my bike. I can save money to pursue a passion of mine. Living at my parents wouldn't be so bad.
I need to be cautious. I don't want to fall into bad habits I developed there. It's like Barney Gumble resisting beer. Although possible, it's tough to do. I don't want to get overly negative there. I find that there is a negative energy in there air. I believe it is due to the mess and clutter of the physical mess and the underlying negative attitudes and actions from my parents that spins into a vicious cycle that grows that energy.
I do need to develop and execute a plan so I'm not stuck there longer than necessary. This plan needs to reflect who I am and what I want in life. I want to use this time to become financially independent, earn my business degree at UIC, and start a few micro-businesses based on my passions and interests. I want buy a multi-unit and move back into the Little Italy area of Chicago during final academic year. I love that area. It's in the middle of everything without heavily congested busy like Lincoln Park. I want to travel more and perhaps live abroad for a year. Most importantly, all I want is my life to reflect who I am inside.
Today is the last day in my Chicago apartment. I will be giving the keys to the new tenants tonight. Moving back into the nest is a positive move for me despite the challenges I will face. I will be able to save money to pursue my passions, become financially independent and build a solid foundation. When creating a beautiful building or home, mess is expected during construction.
